Post No. 1: “The Mother and the Bride : A working-mom, fiance’ and entrepreneur”


241 Days Until the Wedding

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I decided I needed to start a blog on the craziness that is my life. Yes, I know…how is MY life any crazier than yours? Maybe it’s not. But MAYBE it’s similar to what you’re doing. Let’s go ahead and paint the picture…..

My Days (my goal schedule that I try to follow):

5:45 AM  I wake up, let the dog out, feed him, take a shower, get ready, maybe pick up the house a bit if I can, do a load or two of laundry, etc.

6:30-6:45 AM  I start making breakfast for myself and my daughter as well as get my lunch ready for the day

7:00 AM  I wake up the toddler, my daughter Fiona, if she’s not already awake. Change her diaper, get her dressed and put her in her high-chair with Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and breakfast.

7:15-7:30 AM  I eat breakfast myself have a cup of coffee and let the dog out (again, he doesn’t always get it all out, so to try to prevent accidents).

7:30-8:00 AM  Either I’m ready to go, or I need to pack up some extra things, do my hair or finish makeup and/or get Fiona dressed if I didn’t do it before she ate.

8:15-9:00 AM  I am out the door. Depending on my schedule at work I like to spend more time with Fiona in the mornings if I can, I hate rushing if I don’t have to.

I work from about 9 AM to 6 PM Monday through Friday at a sit down job at eBay as a Lead Android User Experience Designer, my days are busy and I very rarely get to have an hour lunch away from my desk.

Fiona is in Day Care Tuesday’s through Friday’s (not free), and at my Italian Grand-mother’s on Monday’s. I pick her up usually around 6 to 6:30 PM and head home.

6:30-7:00 PM  Dinner, my Fiance’ or I will make something

7:00-9:00 PM  We both spend time with our daughter and play and try to get her sleepy enough to fall asleep. When she finally falls asleep is never the same.

9:00-11:30 PM I get to have ME TIME or US time. A lot of the times it ends up being myself and my fiance’ watching movies or catching up on our DVR, while I get sleepy and want to go to bed. Other times I have enough energy to clean a bit or work on some projects.

11:30 PM Goodnight.

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This is never the same everyday. Most days I over sleep, end up waking up around 8 AM and have to do the things I have listed until 9 AM in an hour. I also have a hard time with going to sleep. Sometimes I just want to lay in bed with my daughter as she falls asleep and then I fall asleep with her. But the schedule above is what my goal is.

My wedding is in 241 days! Im so excited, but as a wedding vendor, it’s kind of weird being on the “other side” of things. I love that I already know amazing people to work with and don’t have to do a TON of research to find the right people. That has been something I’ve been very fortunate to have.

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So far I need to figure out my actual decor, I’ve been pinning like a mad woman on Pinterest. I find my board VERY inspirational and LOVE what I’m seeing. Making it happen of course is another thing. I know with my own abilities and the people I have working with me I might get closer than I think to what I’ve pinned. I still need to pick out a dress, and can I say how stressful that part is? I see so many gorgeous dresses and I love them all, but will they look good on ME? I dont know. I’m not exactly fit, or thin. I have baby belly. And though I’m back to my starting weight before pregnancy, I’m nowhere near where I want to be for the wedding, or more importantly for the rest of my life. I have a daughter who’s going to look up to me for advice, and I want to start before she can ask me how.

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I’m basically using my wedding as an excuse, but I’m trying to create a habit. That actually works for my obviously busy and hectic schedule. I’m lucky enough to work with a couple of great girls and adding one more member to my Nimbi Team, so that I can really do my job and run my business smoothly without having to give up one over the other. At least right now.

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But I’ve tried the fad diets, I’ve joined gym’s, I’ve drank energy shakes, and done the DVD’s, tried the drops, you name it. But I just feel like a lot of that stuff is just so gimmicky. I mean, it works for some people. Just not me. I want to do something realistic. Thats not killing myself, that fits into what little time I do have every day during the week. I sit down all day. When am I supposed to find time to go to the gym or take a walk around downtown during lunch when I’m in back-to-back meetings and need any extra time I get at my computer to actually sit-down with my headphones on and design? If I don’t get up early enough to make myself a lunch for the day, I either have to eat crazy early which I’m never hungry since I eat breakfast, or eat extremely late if I have time to get a lunch at all. Thats not good for me either.

I get home and eat, and want to just EAT. Because I’m hungry and EVERYTHING that I shouldn’t have sounds great! Things that are quick and easy like fast-food, so I don’t have to spend more time doing something like cooking, that I could be doing just spending time with my family, or doing something for myself. So Pizza, burgers, Pop-eyes chicken ALL sound fabulous! Do I want it? YES. Should I? Of COURSE not.

(Did I mention that my fiance’ used to be a chef? I come from an off the boat Italian family where my Nonna loves to keep all her children and grandchildren full and never goes a minute without offering food? I love food, I love to make it and eat. I love throwing parties and making tasty dishes like this one).

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So I decided to take in the new year with a fresh approach to my life. Looking at how I manage my time (because, on top of it all I get panic attacks, I need to better organize how I do things). I decided to openly share with my followers and women alike who might be in the same boat. Maybe you’re not planning a wedding on top of it all, but maybe you’re as busy as me every day and overweight and want to figure out something that actually is going to work for YOU. We are all different, but I figured I’d share the next 241 days of my journey.

I hope you enjoy reading, please share, ask questions, and leave comments on what you do! Because I love advice!

My goal is to learn something on the way, maybe teach something along the way and be a understanding for what life is REALLY like for busy working mom’s with lots on their plate.

Hugs + Kisses,
Devan

4 thoughts on “Post No. 1: “The Mother and the Bride : A working-mom, fiance’ and entrepreneur”

  1. katie

    I am sooooo glad you posted this! I sit at a desk for 40 hours a week, have 2 kids and am the PTA president at my daughters school. My schedule is very similar and I find it very difficult to make time and find the motivation to “work out”. By the time I get home and make dinner I don’t even want to do the dishes. I am often tempted to stop and get fast food on the way home because I am STARVING!

    I am really trying to plan ahead and bring my (healthy) lunch to work with me. But more often than not I forget or am in a rush in the morning. At work I have the luxury of a rarely used fridge and freezer. So I have started bringing all my lunch ingredients and just building my lunches at work.

    It’s not perfect but it’s a start! Here’s to a healthier and hopefully more fit us!

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    • devanescence

      I completely understand!! Tonight as an example i had planned to do some things when Fiona finally decided to go to bed at our target time and then…I just woke up at 2 in the morning! LOL WOOOOPS.

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